The Ultimate Guide to Ukrainian Women (2020)
This is an incredibly comprehensive guide about Ukrainian women, taken from an incredible amount of experience from several people who have spent considerable time in the country. If you’ve got any questions or comments, certainly leave them below!
Without further ado, let’s dive right in. Here’s a sneak peak to everything that’s contained in this guide to Ukrainian women.
Introduction to Ukrainian Women
Heck, do Ukrainian girls really need an introduction? They’re some of the most infamous girls in the world. Their stunning beauty, feminine qualities, and the mail order bride business has led to every sane man being innately curious about the women of Ukraine.
If you’re coming from the dating world of Western countries, you’ll be in shock and awe at how different it is in Ukraine. And it’s a good thing.
However, the most shocking thing you’ll probably see will happen when you’re just walking down the street. The streets of cities like Kiev and Odessa will be full of stunning women walking around in beautiful sundresses and high heels. At least during the summer—winter is another story.
Rest assured, it will be unlike anything you ever have seen in a Western country. Think of high school prom level of style, elegance and effort. And all of this happens every single day right on the streets.
Undoubtedly, your head may will be on a swivel for the first couple of days.
As far as the local flavors, there’s quite the range. I don’t think I’ve ever seen as many redheads as I have in Ukraine. At the same time, there’s plenty of blondes, brunettes, and jet-blacked hair girls to go around. The majority of them are thin—you won’t find the curves that you would find in places like South America.
With that being said, everyone should be able to find whatever physical preference they have in Ukraine.
The dating culture in Ukraine is also vastly different than in the West. Once you start meeting some Ukrainian women, you’re in for some surprises—both good and bad.
Let’s start with the good—the women of Ukraine are of the highest quality. You can expect them to put great effort into their appearance, attitude, and relationship with you. They bring 100% to the table.
Now, for the bad. Ukraine is a “cold” culture. The reality is that it isn’t necessarily cold, but it’s just not as “fake” as many cultures in the Western world. Yes, I’m looking at you America.
It will take some time to get used to. Girls that you date in Ukraine aren’t going to spill their life story on the first date. In fact, it may even take a month or more to get a girl to really start opening up to you. It can be a difficult obstacle to overcome when you’re first acclimating to Ukrainian culture, but with a little bit of “practice” you’ll begin to get the hang of it.
Ukrainian women do not hate their own men (there are other countries in Eastern Europe that do have that stigma). There are some cases where the girls in Ukraine only date other local men.
However, these are few and far between. The vast majority of Ukrainian girls are at least open to the idea of dating a foreign fella.
Is There Any Casual Dating?
Might as well get this out of the way now—no, not much.
There is not a lot of “casual, hookup sex” culture going on in Ukraine. It’s still a society that (thankfully) values longer term relationships with some substance behind them. Certainly, “casual dating” isn’t out of the question. Not every Ukrainian girl wants to get married and have babies TOMORROW.
It’s most important to know that there is not a “one night stand” culture. In the Western world, that’s about all it is these days. People meet the same night and go home for some frolicking in the sheets.
This is not the case in Ukraine.
Of course there are always exceptions to this, but generally speaking it’s best to keep this in mind. Failure to do so will likely result in you losing out on more opportunities than you could ever gain. Just remember this, because it’ll be referenced several more times throughout this article.
Where to Meet Ukrainian Women
In modern dating, there seems to be three “usual” acceptable ways of meeting people.
Needless to say, the kind of social environments that locals might use to meet their partners isn’t really available for those of us who travel to Ukraine. More than likely, you won’t have the ability to meet a Ukrainian woman through a work function or family event.
As a result, you’re left with three options: meet them at night (bars/clubs), meet them during the day (coffee shop/street), or meet them via Ukrainian online dating websites.
Meeting At Night
The club and bar scene is going to vary wildly in between Ukrainian cities.
For example, Kiev tends to be pretty dead as far as nightlife goes. It picks up a bit on the weekend days, but contrast it to a place like Kharkiv which has a spot to go to every night. Odessa has a Las Vegas-esque environment for two months a year, but falls off after that.
If you plan to go out to the drinking scene as a way to meet women, you should do further research on the individual cities and see which ones fit your style best. It would be horrible to get all the way to Ukraine only to learn that the city you chose has nothing to do at night.
Assuming you pick a nightlife city, here are general rules to follow when chatting up the Ukrainian girls:
It’s going to be difficult to hear.
Keep in mind that the English levels aren’t the strongest in Ukraine; you should definitely consider the option to learn Russian online before arriving. Add in bar/club music with low levels of English ad you have a recipe for disaster.
If you don’t speak Russian…
…at least learn a little bit so you can greet her in Russian. This will at least “lower the guard” a bit, so to speak. English speaking tourists are a dime a dozen in many parts of Ukraine.
If you don’t bother to learn a few basic phrases, she’s going to lump you in with all of the horny and drunk Turkish tourists who are known very commonly as sex tourists.
Just being able to say a dozen words (not even phrases!) puts you miles ahead of most of the men who travel to Ukraine to meet Ukrainian women.
Is Russian hard to learn? Not terribly so, but it does take time.
(You can get a free trial of Rocket Russian, which is excellent, by clicking here.)
Update, October 2019:
Honestly, the English levels in Ukraine have improved dramatically over the last few years, as the country becomes more and more European and less and less Russian. The English level in the major cities, especially in the center, is getting to the “you can have no worries about coming here and only speaking English” levels.
Granted, nightclubs are still loud places, but most girls who are going out in the central areas (especially under 25 or younger), should speak English on a high level—and it will only improve.
Prepare for long nights.
This isn’t the United States with it’s last call at 1:30am, with closing time being 2:00am. Ukrainian people tend to go out late, stay out late, and have a hell of a time during the whole process.
Dress the part.
Too many tourists go on holiday (not just in Ukraine) and they dress like complete and utter slobs. Don’t be that guy.
Of course, you can go the suit route, but the more casual route of a blazer and jeans works well, too.
Typically, I wear a pair of nice, dark jeans with a blazer I usually pair these with a nice pair of dress shoes.
For the final piece of the puzzle—put a nice watch on. I do have a high-end watch, and several more “middle” ground ones. All of them get complimented…every time I go out. Don’t fret if you don’t have the right brand of watch on your wrist, but do make sure it looks good.
This is the high-end watch I have—though I wouldn’t wear it anywhere but the really high end Ukrainian clubs. This watch looks phenomenal and yes—has the “brand backing”. It goes with any of my clothes.
This watch gets me compliments every time I go out without fail. It’s incredibly unique and everyone wants to talk about it.
Again, here isn’t a lot of “same night” action.
Remember what I said in the Dating Culture section?
Ukraine is not a place where a girl is going to meet you the same night and end up in your bed, straight from the club. It just simply doesn’t happen. And if you push too hard for this, it’s very unlikely she’ll come out to meet you for a date—whereas she would have before.
Gentleman’s rule applies to this.
You can definitely try to kiss, dance, and have some fun with her if you meet her that night. But if you push too hard to “make it happen”, it probably won’t. If it doesn’t work out, you might lose any and all chance with her. Permanently.
In the majority of cases, it’s better to just get her phone number, give her a kiss goodbye, and set up a date in the future.
Meeting During the Day
Believe it or not, Ukrainian women expect to be approached on the street. It’s a somewhat normal thing in their culture for men to simply pursue women they are interested in by striking up a conversation on the street.
If you decide to take this route, it’s worth noting that the summer months tend to skew things in a multitude of ways. You’ll have more men out there, but also more women. This may or may not work for you.
The best advice is this:
If she fancies you, she’ll stop and have a conversation.
It’s really that simple. It’s important not to get too into your head because you see one other guy approaching girls on the street. Or if you get rejected once or twice.
If she likes it, great! Have a brief conversation with her and swap numbers. In all likelihood, she’ll text you back and you can set up a date. For more information on that, keep reading this guide.
Online Dating in Ukraine
Okay, now this is important—you must do some online dating before you head to Ukraine. Even if you’re not technically or simply have no interest in online dating.
You don’t want to put all your eggs in one basket. Are you really going to fly around the world and not have anything going for you? NO.
If anything, doing some online dating gives you a chance to meet some cool girls—worst case scenario is maybe you make a friend who can help you translate. Best case scenario obviously is that you end up on a date(s) with a great Ukrainian girl(s).
You’ve got your choices as far as online dating resources in Ukraine, so…
Online Dating Ukraine—What Sites Are Best?
There are two major players in the Ukraine online dating market—Ukraine and Tinder.
Also, make sure you read our 2020 guide to Ukrainian dating sites.
Note: You can’t message girls without a premium membership—but it’s well worth it. The reception on Ukraine Date is fantastic. If you have good photos and a few words on your profile, close to 100% of the girls will message you right back.
Ukraine Date is a bargain. If you put the time in, you could probably even arrange for a girl to meet you at the airport and give you a hand with translating. Granted, this would probably take a week or two of correspondence before your trip.
The major difference between Ukraine Date and Tinder is that the girls on Ukraine Date aren’t wasting time. They tend to lean towards serious relationships, whereas Tinder is more likely to have the few and far between casual relationships that were discussed earlier in this article.
Simply put, the girls on Tinder are far more likely to waste your time—i.e. agree to a date and cancel, or simply not show up. The girls on Ukraine Date are truly interested in meeting a man, and best of all—a Western guy. Use this to your advantage.
Ukraine Date Quick Start Guide
- Sign up for the website about two weeks before your trip.
- Send out messages to the girls–it can be as simple as, “Hello, do you speak English? :)”
- She will probably respond with something simple, just a yes and a smiley face.
- From there, you can just say that you are looking forward to your trip to Ukraine, and ask if she has Whatsapp or Viber (the two most common ways of messaging in Ukraine). Facebook is another alternative.
- She’ll give you her number 9 times out of 10.
- Text her right away on the app, and keep in touch every other day until you leave. Send her pictures of your day to day life, share some things about herself. Have her teach you a few words in Russian.
- Set up plans to meet her a few days before you arrive. Many first dates in Ukraine can be something as simple as taking a walk in the park and grabbing a coffee.
- Enjoy the date!
Again, I want to stress—you don’t need any “pickup lines” or gimmicks to get girls on dates from Ukraine Date. Coming from the Western world, it’s easy to try to do “too much” to impress a girl.
Simply put, you don’t need to do that with Ukrainian girls. You are already in a position where she sees you as a prize (in most cases). Just be a normal, cool, guy and you will do just fine on Ukraine Date.
Tinder in Ukraine
Now, admittedly Tinder is a little bit of a different animal.
You can safely assume that most girls who are on Tinder in Ukraine are slightly “Westernized”. This means that they have an interest in the culture, and are more likely to have less of the “traditional” Ukrainian girl attitude.
They tend to be a bit more sexually liberated, though certainly nowhere near girls in America or the U.K. (or even Poland for that matter).
There are infinite resources on Tinder out there in the world, so we won’t go into too much detail on it. However, the same rules still apply—you don’t need to try too hard (but you will need to try harder than you do on Ukraine Date).
You will likely have to put up with more general games and bullshit with the Tinder girls. Ukraine Date’s fee—even though it’s incredibly reasonable—discourages many men from signing up. Whereas with Tinder, every guy in the world can set his location to Ukraine and talk to Ukrainian women.
If you put 2 + 2 together you’ll realize that girls are obviously more likely to play games if they have more options.
Update, October 2019:
Tinder was REALLY, REALLY good in Ukraine for a brief, glorious period there. It was new, it was novel, and there just weren’t that many foreigners actually in Ukraine. The problem these days is that any guy from any part of the world can buy Tinder Passport for a few bucks and “be in Ukraine”.
This has sort of inflated the egos of a lot of women here, because they see just how desirable they are on a global scale, in addition to the local scene.
The “exotic factor” in Kiev is getting to the point where it’s almost nonexistent. You will still have some exotic factors in places like Kharkov, Lviv, and Dnipro (doubtful on Odessa as it’s always been a tourist hotspot).
That wraps up where to meet Ukrainian women, as well online dating in Ukraine. Let’s move on to actually dating some Ukrainian women!
The Dating Process Debunked
The 1st Date
Let’s start simple—the first date.
Generally speaking, it’s best to take things at a slow pace. Again, there isn’t much of a hookup culture in Ukraine. The first date should be casual and fun—and nothing over the top!
If you met her at night or during the day, and have already met in person, you can bring flowers.
If you met her online, I’d probably discourage you from going the flowers routes. Plus, it would suck if you and her didn’t click and went your separate ways after 30 minutes!
So what should you do?
A simple coffee or drink is the best thing you can do. Many girls don’t actually drink, so coffee is a perfectly good alternative (you can always pick a cafe and have a beer yourself if you’re so inclined.)
DO NOT DRINK HARD LIQUOR.
I can’t stress this one enough.
A common thing Ukrainian women complain about in regards to their own men is the drinking. Don’t do your best Ukrainian man impression by ordering shots of vodka while on your first date. Stick to simple wines or beer if you choose to partake in drinking booze.
How long should the first date be?
Truthfully, it only needs to be an hour. Enough to establish whether you and her have chemistry or not. In fact, I’d say it’s better to cut it off somewhere around the 1-2 hour mark. Intrigue her and establish a connection—she’ll be dying to go out with you a second time.
Slavic women have this tendency to refuse to kiss you for a very long time. Whereas Latin cultures dictates that you make out within half an hour of meeting, Ukrainian culture goes at a much slower pace.
Yes, you can absolutely kiss a Ukrainian girl on the first date, however…you don’t have to.
And the first time you try, I will personally guarantee that she’s going to turn you down. It’s just part of the thing that many Eastern European women do.
It’s partially because she doesn’t want to feel “easy” and partially because she wants to see how much of a man you are. Are you the guy who gets nervous and jumpy when this happens? Do you take rejection personally?
Ukrainian women will eat you alive if so. Dating in Ukraine is not for the faint-hearted. This refusal of kiss #1, 2, 3, 4, 5 (I’ve tried up to 50 times on one date and finally got it) is just a massive screen to see if you’re a masculine guy.
If she rejects you, don’t let it get to you. Just keep trying—within reason. In the case of my 50 attempts, I knew she liked me. A lot. She was having fun with it. Unfortunately not all situations are black and white, so use your best judgment. Don’t try so many times you sense you’re turning her off.
The 2nd Date and…WALKS
You can do something a little more upscale for a second date—think drinks and tapas at a cool wine bar or something of the sort. Again, no need for extravagant dinners at this point in the game.
I know everyone reading this wants to learn how to seal the deal, but again—this is early. If she really likes you trying to go for it now won’t spook her off, but if she does turn you down it sets you back, so to speak.
If you’re too aggressive with trying to get her into your bed, she may be hesitant to hop into bed with you on the next date. It’s often a “3-date-rule” kind of culture in Ukraine, so it’s not surprising. If you’re too aggressive on date #2, you might end up waiting more around the 4-5 date range. You can rest assured if you go for the kill and fail on date #2, that she’ll be awfully on guard for date #3.
Now, this is probably the most important piece of advice I can give you about Ukrainian women.
They love to walk.
It’s a thing. Some people go on walks for dates. If a Ukrainian girl asks you to go on a walk with her—do it! Even if it’s just for an hour or so in the afternoon and you don’t do anything else. It’s just a matter of putting in the face time to make her feel comfortable around you.
Go on every walk you possibly can during the courtship process. It will pay huge dividends.
No, the Questions Never End
You’re going to hear the same questions repeated on dates. If you go on dates with multiple girls, you’re going to hear the same questions. Know what’s coming and prepare your answers accordingly.
- Why are you in Ukraine?
- Why don’t you like America/London/Australia/wherever you’re from.
- Are you a sex tourist?
- What do you think of Ukrainian women?
- Do you think Ukrainian girls are beautiful?
- Why do you want a Ukrainian girl?
- Do you want a wife and kids?
Seriously, you’re going to get asked this on every date. And she’s never going to let up on the first date. Again, it’s another test—though this time it’s a self-defense mechanism.
What’s the best answers to these? It’s hard to say. Sarcasm doesn’t go over as well in Ukraine as it does in the Western world. If you’re too sarcastic you may piss her off. If you lie she’ll be able to see through it.
The best thing I’ve found is just to answer them as truthfully as possible without being explicit.
“Why are you in Ukraine?”
Yeah, it’s probably true that you’re there partially because of the girls. But perhaps you have tourism aspirations or are merely interested in it.
The best answer to this is:
“Pretty girls and vodka ;)”
The delivery is important. You don’t want to be a sarcastic ass, but she knows that is a real reason. At the same time, if you say it with a smile it’s genuine enough that she’ll let you off the hook.
Why don’t you like America/London/Australia/wherever you’re from?
People are fat and rude. (They’ll be amazed, seriously—there are hardly any fat people in Ukraine.)
What do you think of Ukrainian women?
They’re stunning! So much prettier than Western girls.
Do you want a wife and kids?
Yes, but with the right person and at the right time in my life.
Hopefully you get where I’m going with.
You can answer relatively truthfully and satiate her need for answers without giving away the farm. You can’t blame her for protecting herself. She knows the stories about Western men and Ukrainian women, and of course the mail-order bride reputation that comes out of Odessa.
The Elephant In The Room: How Many Dates?
Yeah, it’s the question every man is curious—how many dates is typical until intimacy?
Three is a good rule of thumb, though obviously there are dozens of other variables that can come into play and impact this. I’m not an advocate of the mail-order bride system of porting her over to America before intimacy. That’s for desperate chumps.
Intimacy is a natural and desired thing amongst normal human beings. And while things don’t anywhere near as fast as they do in the Western world, Ukrainian women still have desires. Just take things at a good pace and usually they’ll happen.
Update, October 2019:
Honestly, while things still don’t move as fast as they do in the Western world (i.e. it’s pretty unlikely a girl will come straight from online to your apartment), for better or worse, the dating scene is really changing here.
I had a friend visit in April of 2019, and in a span of just 8 days, he slept with 2 girls on the first date within a few hours of meeting them. Both were extremely young, under aged between 19-21 years old.
It definitely seems the younger generation is taking the promiscuity and sex-positive culture of the West with open
Older Ukrainian women, who did not grow up in that environment, are still very likely to make you wait a few dates before intimacy progresses.
The main point is though, that things are changing and the “rules” are not the same as they used to be.
Relationships With Ukrainian Girls
The great news is that once intimacy happen, things tend to open up a lot more.
You’ll find the women of Ukraine willing to let you in to their hearts and start to share more about themselves.
The previously “cold” Slavic culture will become more much warm towards you. It’s important to note that, that it still can take time. While Ukrainian girls will share far more about themselves after intimacy has occurred, it’s still common for it to take weeks or months before she fully trusts you.
The feminine qualities of these girls will really start to shine as you enter a relationship with them.
Update, October 2019:
The great news is that while the girls in Ukraine are becoming more promiscuous with their behavior, at core of their heart, most Ukrainian girls really do want to end up in a relationship and have a marriage and family.
They are still generally willing to marry young if they find the right person.
The grandmas (babushkas) in Ukraine also keep things in check. Unlike the older generations in the West, who generally encourage freedom and waiting for family, babushkas in Ukraine want their granddaughters married yesterday.
This is good, because it helps to keep society in check.
The shame of family and a culture can be a very powerful thing when it comes to motivating people.
What I mean is, you won’t find many, if any, Ukrainian women who are trying to wait until they are at least 30 years old before they start looking for a life partner. Most of them are actively looking by the time they turn 25. After that, with so many beautiful Ukrainian girls in the country, they become old news fast.
As the current babushkas say goodbye to this world, and are replaced by the next generation (which does seem to be more open-minded as they were young when the Soviet Union collapsed and have been fed the Western propaganda for most of their lives)…it’s very possible things are going to change.
Only time will tell.
There will be no more of the silly “I can’t cook but I can make you a Lean Cuisine” stuff spewed out by Western girls.
No, you’ll have your choice of your favorite Ukrainian dishes—whenever you’d like.
You can generally expect a Ukrainian girl to take care of you, as her man, with incredible passion and enthusiasm. Of course, the flip side of it is that you’re expected to uphold your duty as a man. This means footing the bill (for everything), making decisions, and generally just being a strong and masculine man.
If you don’t hold up your end of the bargain, you can rest assured it will (eventually) fall apart—though with a much longer leash for screwing up than you get with girls in the West.
Take a genuine interest in her traditions, foods, customs, and Ukraine as a whole. Your relationship is much more likely to blossom if you have a true interest in Ukraine, as opposed to viewing it as a cattle farm for hot girls. And as has been discussed ad nauseam on this website, Ukraine is truly a fascinating place.
Many Ukrainian girls are very close with their families. It’s customary to meet new boyfriends or girlfriends after about six months of dating.
If you end up in a situation where you’re going to meet your Ukrainian girlfriend’s family, be prepared to drink and eat a lot.
Dad is going to want to get you drunk to see if you can drink like a man. Ditto for any brothers, uncles, cousins, etc. present.
Mom, Grandma, sisters, and aunts are going to try to shove more food in your face than you’ve eaten all month. Your plate will hardly be empty for a second before one of them is getting up to get you more food. Hell, you need it to combat all the alcohol that Dad is pouring down your throat…
The point is, it’s a reasonably big deal to introduce a new romantic interest. It’s a big celebration, and they show their affection with food and drink.
You should be worried if Dad isn’t doing shots of alcohol with you.
And yes, you should bring flowers for Mom and a bottle of booze for Dad. Gifts are 100% acceptable.
Ukrainian Women: Conclusion
While they can be difficult at times, Ukrainian women are 110% worth the effort.
It’s rare to find the beauty, femininity, and overall elegance of Ukrainian women anywhere else in the world.
Don’t get me wrong, they’ll drive you crazy at times.
- You’ll get sick of answering the questions.
- You’ll grow tired of the tests.
- You’ll wonder if it’s worth it all.
But then their beauty, both inner and outer, shines through. All of a sudden, all of the pain, heartache, and frustrations with Ukrainian women are absolutely worth it.
I’ve had amazing relationships with Ukrainian women, and I hope this article will help you to do the same.
PS: If you’re ready to start meeting Ukrainian women, make sure to sign up for Ukraine Date.
Update, October 2019:
2020 Update: Common Things to Avoid
Several years after this article was first published, things have changed a lot. With that being said, it’s probably worth mentioning these things to avoid when it comes to Ukrainian women.
Avoid The “Must Leave Ukraine” Types
Honestly, you really have to think about what kind of girl really wants to pack up and leave from her whole family (unless they’re really bad).
It’s sort of the same type of girl who wouldn’t hesitate to split a family and get a divorce, if you know what we’re saying.
Ukraine, while unstable, is not a third world country without running water and internet.
There is a difference between her being open to leaving Ukraine versus actually looking for a way out. You will know the difference when you see it. The ones who want to leave just won’t stop talking about it — the real irony is that they’re also often the ones that are the most nationalist, insisting that people should stop speaking Russian and that Ukraine should be in the EU as soon as possible.
Hypocrisy at it’s finest…
In our experiences, these types of women more often come from villages or second and third tier cities. It is still seen as a big deal for a girl to make it out of the small towns and get a good job or study in a place like Kiev.
You are better off looking for a girl who is happy in Ukraine.
Depending on whether or not you want to live there, and you’re looking to the future with an eye on marriage, then you can discuss possibly leaving the country. Until that point though, we highly recommend cutting things off with a “want to leave Ukraine right now” girl if she’s dropping hints on the first date.
Ultimately, you want a happy girl, right?
There’s a saying that happiest girls are the prettiest girls.
Go for a woman who is content and happy in her own life if you want to build a healthy and lasting relationship. Avoid the ones who are looking to jump ship on their society and culture.
The Typical Scam — Being Used
Our advice from this article still rings true.
Every day, there’s at least one eager-eyed and horny man who gets on a plane from the West to Ukraine, expecting to meet who he thinks is the love of his life.
Little does he know, that often his dream Ukrainian girl is already married.
- In addition, the “driver” she has arranged for him is actually her husband.
- And because she can’t speak English, the “translator” she has arranged is her sister, or her husband’s sister, or a best friend.
- The “nice restaurants” she insists on going to have a second menu for when she shows up with you.
By all means, you should meet women online before you head to Ukraine, and you should plan to meet them. But note that we said women, not woman.
Do not get on a plane to fly halfway across the world to meet one girl. That is pure insanity. You should have multiple options lined up, and go on multiple dates with the ones you click with. In addition, having a few “in the pipeline” will help you from falling too crazily head-over-heels with just one. You will be able to think more rationally about one.