Ukrainian Dating Service: Don’t Get Scammed
More and more Western men seek Eastern European girls to date and marry. Third-wave feminists, impossible standards, and Western women’s fear of commitment are all to blame here. Using a Ukrainian dating service is a poplar choice among these guys. But scams are ever so popular as well.
When journalist Shaun Walker spent time in Kiev on a ‘romance tour’ he noticed that international dating was now more sophisticated and so were the scams. During his week in the city Shaun witnessed one man getting dragged around on expensive platonic dates only to leave with no relationship and significantly emptier wallet. Another one simply could not contact his online crush. He spent the week calling her non-stop to no avail. Read Shaun’s book for more details.
He offers very interesting insight into how Ukrainian dating service sites work.
So the question is – how do you use a Ukrainian dating service without getting scammed?
Basic Safety Online
Every single day I get surprised at how stupid people can get online. Half of our lives happen on the Internet, and yet we don’t follow even the most basic of safety principles. With Ukrainian dating services the first thing is weeding out the obvious scammers.
For instance, anyone who demands money to sign you up is a fraud. Reputable companies let you get a taste of the service before they ask for payment. Period. There should be no discussion on this one.
The other thing to look out for is how you pay for your membership. There are some pages which offer a suspiciously low price if you send the money by Western Union (or a similar service). Guess what?
You are not getting this money back.
Finally, sharing bank details outside a secured page is a huge no-no. It is best to stick to PayPal. If you are paying by card, make sure the page has the relevant security certificates (like this site! look at your address bar where it says ‘Secure’ with the lock). SSL-secured pages are the only ones that get to have your information.
Marriage Agencies Vs Online Safety
What you might have noticed is that most Ukrainian dating services do not measure up to the very basic standards in the last section. Marriage agencies would often ask for payment by direct transfer. They do not serve you unless you pay. They never accept PayPal. All of these are red flags and very obvious ones?
Inside A Fraudulent Ukrainian Dating Service
Mail-order brides from Ukraine are nothing new. In a country where most families live under the poverty line, married life in the even to a less than attractive man doesn’t seem like that bad of an option. Things have changes a lot since the 90s, though. No longer is the international dating business based on what is basically human trafficking.
This might be a good time to tell you a thing or two about Ukrainian culture.
Women in Eastern Europe are very family-oriented. They have been raised with high morals, even though you don’t exactly get that from their flashy clothes. No matter how short the skirt and high the heels, though, Ukrainian women are very much interested in a serious relationship and marriage. They seek a life partner, someone mature and ready for stability.
Basically, husband material.
Sadly, statistics show that men in Ukraine are fewer than women (around 84 men for every 100 women), they drink and smoke to an excess, and they are often unemployed or don’t get paid enough to support a family. The dating scene in Ukraine is very much like hunting for the odd one who can actually handle a serious relationship. More and more women get tired of this and look outside the country for their future spouse.
Marriage agencies cater to these girls.
They promise to set them up with a wealthy, handsome foreigner in exchange for a small fee. Sometimes they do, sometimes the women themselves get scammed. There are tons of stories where companies charge them for photo sessions and personality tests only to disappear a few months later. This is not isolated to just Ukraine but also Russia, Romania, Moldova, and other Eastern European countries.
How To Order A Bride
Ukrainian dating service scams affect the men even more than the girls. Guys usually get charged a much steeper fee, they get lead on, sometimes to the point where they only discover it has been a fraud when they arrive in Ukraine.
There are all sorts of complex schemes that come into play. Sadly, there is zero control from Ukrainian law enforcement against these scammers. If anything, officials are sometimes involved in the whole thing, be it directly or through corruption.
When you contact a potentially sketchy matchmaking service, the first thing you will notice is the big promises and the exaggerated ‘niceness’ of the staff. They are quick to become stern and serious when it comes to money, though. You might hear some sob stories about the girls, who can’t afford to pay for the service. The matchmakers, you see, have no other choice but have the men pay so that these poor girls can get set up.
Yes, this all sounds very 90s but it does exist today. If you are up for the challenge, a simple Google search can lead you to a bunch of agencies like this.
Go ahead and try to find a girl there. See the red flags for yourself.
Just don’t fall in the trap for real, ok?
These guys can get super convincing but that does not make them less of a fraud.
Alternative (Reputable) Ukrainian Dating Service?
After all the horror stories I told you, is meeting a Ukrainian girl even possible?
Yes, but you have to be smart about it. Online dating gives you many opportunities to actually find a beautiful woman to date and marry.
Unlike matchmaking companies, niche dating websites simply help people get in touch. They are paid, at least the ones that actually work, but their entire business model is different. If anything, niche online dating pages go to great lengths to weed out scammers.
As you might already know, we’re big fans here of Ukraine Date.
I have seen them do their magic and I can vouch for their authenticity and efficiency. Of course, you are more than welcome not to take my word for it. There are various independent reviews online plus nearly 150 different testimonials of happy new couples on the very website.
What Makes A Ukrainian Dating Service Safe?
Apart from the bank detail safety and the other basics, how do you know if Ukraine Date will work for you? Well, to be honest it will not if you:
- Are only looking for a casual, mostly sexual relationship.
- Hate commitment and will not invest your time into getting to know the girl.
- Only use free dating sites and apps.
Because yes, these Ukranian beauties are very much aware of their value. One night stands with foreigners are not their jazz. If you just want a holiday romance, use Tinder when you get there.
No need to waste serious girls time.
And also, Ukrainian Date is paid.
You can sign up for free but that hardly gives you enough functionality. Free profiles can use the advanced search tool but they can’t contact all profiles. Or more accurately, they can, but to open the messages at least one of the users should have a Premium account. Thankfully, membership comes out at around 42 cents per day and it is an all-inclusive price. There are no hidden fees or unexpected charges.
So if you ask me, that is what makes a Ukrainian dating service safe and effective. I don’t mind using a paid service (it guarantees that people there are serious about dating). I do mind dodgy, scam-y pages that shower you with pictures of gorgeous girls that somehow always disappear before you get the chance to meet them.
Ukrainian Date Safety
Sadly, even pages like Ukrainian Date are not a safe heaven from scammers. More and more marriage agencies have started putting the girls on there (these are not always real girls… in fact, they are rarely real). Some women only sign up to find gullible men willing to send them money. There are also other schemes some of them I don’t know.
What I do know, however, is that Ukrainian Date encourages you to report scammers. Here are the red flags to look out for. If anything like this happens stop talking to the girl. Consider reporting her, too. The website people can double check her profile and they will remove it at the tiniest suspicion that she is a fraud.
- She showers you with messages, telling you that you are her dream man from the very first few.
- Skype is out of the question but she has another video chat page to suggest. Best case scenario here is that she’s a bot or a camgirl. Worst case is that there is no she, it’s an icky dude somewhere in Ukraine, looking to steal your computer’s information.
- She asks for your email or phone number. Why would she, when you two can talk through the site?
- A sob story and some not so subtle mentions of her/her family needing money. Do not send her anything. What do you think will happen?
All that being said, fraudulent profiles are rare on Ukraine Date. As long as you stay smart and prudent, you will be fine and on your way to getting a stunning Ukrainian girlfriend!
What is your favorite thing about Ukrainian girls? Is it the looks? Their gentle character? How well they take care of their men? Tell using the comments down bellow!