The Ukrainian Brides Scam Gets Pulled on My Friend

Most of the world by now is familiar with Ukrainian brides. You’ve heard the stories—Western men, desperate for love and companionship, journey to faraway places like Ukraine or Russia in the hopes of meeting Eastern European women. They hope to find lifelong love.

Unfortunately, those fairytales stories rarely come true. Today I feel the need to share a Ukrainian bride horror story/scam that was recently pulled on an acquaintance of mine.

To give some backstory, I met this guy in July 2016 in Odessa, Ukraine. While my memory is slightly foggy, he was around 55 years old and lived on the east coast of the United States. He was in town because he’d met a girl on a foreign bride site, and was considering getting her a visa to come live with him. He’d plan to spend about ten days in Odessa, albeit that girl lived about an hour outside of the city.

I believe he also had plans to meet one other girl, so he wasn’t putting all his eggs in one basket. Reasonable if you’re going to fly around the world to meet someone on the internet. I have no idea how it turned out with any other girls he was due to meet. However, these are his two nightmares stories.

Odessa, July 2016

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He arrives in Odessa, and I think the day after he went out to this far city to meet the girl. Why she didn’t meet him at the airport is beyond me (more on that later). Apparently this first meet went reasonably well—well enough that he decided it was a worthwhile invest to buy her a brand-new $2,000 iMac.

I’m sure you can see where this is about to go.

For the remainder of his nine days in Odessa, he saw this girl once. And again, he had to take a taxi way out to her town or village outside of Odessa. She made no efforts to see him again, repeatedly blowing him off because she was “busy” with a number of excuses. Work, family, tired—you name it, she used it.

He was obviously quite upset with these developments. Apparently, her friend who he met on one of his trips messaged him at the end, saying that, “If it doesn’t work out with [name], you and I could be together.”

The girl he had flown all the way around the world for couldn’t be bothered to take him to the airport, either. She basically blew him off, but low and below, as soon as he returned to the States, she was messaging him.

“It was moving so fast and I miss you, can we try again?”

“I am ready to be with you now, but I need money to do [XYZ] before I can come to America.”

Typical sob stories told by Ukrainian brides as a way to scam men out of their money. Don’t get me wrong, I’m sure there are Ukrainian brides who genuinely want to find a nice guy and get married. Scams like this though are a dime a dozen.

Odessa Brides is an excellent book on the subject.

It sucked for the American guy, but making those kind of huge financial purchases right off the bat are a surefire way to get yourself screwed. Despite the obviousness of the situation to an outsider, it happens. Love clouds judgment.


Fool Me Once, Shame On You…

…fool me twice, shame on me.

Yeah, the same guy was the “victim” of yet another Ukrainian brides scam less than six months after the first one. This time it was even worse, but it reads almost the same.

Again, he met a girl on a dating website or agency, the majority of which are scams in Ukraine.

Any website that charges you an exuberant fee by the minute to message a girl, to translate, or any other add-ons are a surefire scam. Stay away from them. Look for sites like Ukraine Date that have a one-time fee that allow you unlimited messages and no hidden add-ons that gouge you left and right.

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He meets this girl, and again he “falls in love”. Over the internet. “She” is gorgeous (the young one), you can see for yourself:

Before he knows it (within two months), they’re making arrangements for her to come to the United States and live with him. He starts sending her money so she can obtain her visa, as well as giving her some other money for miscellaneous expenses.

He does all of this without bothering to Skype or FaceTime with her to verify she is the girl in the photos.

Attempt #1

The day finally arrives.

She’s heading to the United States, but has to travel for a layover in Istanbul first. While she’s in Istanbul, she gets a phone call. Her mother is dead. She has to fly back ASAP, and could he please send some money to help with the funeral arrangements?

A month later, things are better. The funeral is taken care of, but now she has nobody else left for her. She wants to leave the country and come live with him in the US. However, more money is obviously needed to fix any visa issues. He sends it.

She’s finally on the plane, and bound for American soil. This time, there’s no dead moms to get in the way of happiness and everlasting love. You’d think, right?

Attempt #2

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The look on a foreign bride’s face after she gets a $2,000 iMac…

Everything was going great, until she landed. She calls him and tells him that she’s held up at customs, she can’t get through. She’s not sure they will allow her into the US. He tries to solve the problem, and ends up just upsetting her. Then she calls to tell him that she’s through customs, but angry at him. She goes to a hotel. I don’t know whether she asked him to transfer money for the hotel, but it wouldn’t surprise me.

This fella, obviously petrified of losing his foreign bride before he even meets her in person, starts calling her. Non-stop. He figures out what hotel she checked in to, and drives there. He calls her once and leaves a message that he is there, waiting for her. Ten minutes later he calls again.

The phone number had been disconnected completely.

He waits around for four hours, trying repeatedly. He never gets an answer. He has not heard from her since, and I’m sure he never will. More than likely, the girl in the photo has no idea who he is. The girl he’s been talking with is clearly just sitting on her computer in Ukraine, bleeding him dry to the tune of nearly $5,000.

What does he have to show for it? Absolutely nothing. 

Are Ukrainian Brides Scamming Men All The Time?

There are good Ukrainian girls out there in the world, but you’re certainly not going to find them on a foreign bride site in most cases. The odds are hedged against you. If you have the money to afford these kind of agencies, to pay the bills from afar, and to buy gifts—then guess what?

You have the money to get on a plane, rent an apartment in Ukraine, and just live a normal life while meeting nice, normal Ukrainian women in your day-to-day life. 

Sure, jobs might impact this, but if you’re at a point in life where you’ve got the money to blow, surely you can afford to take a week or two off work. You’re likely to have a better experience rather than endlessly hunting and getting scammed by Ukrainian brides.

To wrap this up, I obviously feel sorry for the guy. But you can’t fix stupid. I can only hope that not all men make the same (repeated) mistakes when it comes to Ukrainian brides.

Stay smart,


PS: Go meet some normal girls on Ukraine Date before you do anything with a dating or marriage agency. A $30 investment is a heck of a lot less than $5,000. Click here to sign up.

  • January 3, 2017
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Brock Robinson (@TheCityBachelor)

A classic tell is when they get angry at you when you try to FaceTime or get some kind of legit social media for authentication.

    Ukraine Living

    Exactly. They will travel the world to meet but won’t FaceTime for 5 minutes?

    Some dudes are unreal.


“You have the money to get on a plane, rent an apartment in Ukraine, and just live a normal life while meeting nice, normal Ukrainian women in your day-to-day life.”

Excellent point you make there!
Like you said, even though there might be some girls on these mail brides genuinely looking for marriage/LTR, the risks are quite high especially when a western man brings a foreign bride to his country. Many tragic cases in which the foreign bride, upon realizing her high SMV in the west(compared to obese western girls) she decides to “upgrade” for another man.
Personally my plans are to first learn about a foreign culture and language then to permanently move there. Taking time to form social circles and knowing the family and background of potential brides allows better vetting and screening out of the types of girls like the one you mentioned in the above story. If the girl has a strong and healthy relationship with her father I’ve heard this is a major green flag and a good sign. I think keeping the bride there in her country and encouraging her to maintain cultural and family ties should lessen the risk of divorce rape that is common in the west.

This is slightly off topic but I was somehow suddenly reminded of an article by roissy(heartiste) talking about what the career choice of a woman shows about her level of femininity. He goes on to state that an elementary school teacher is “pure gold” and has the qualities of “Cute, thin (it’s a workout chasing kids all day), ultra feminine, nurturing, selfless, caring” as well as supposedly “low maintenance due to the nature of her workplace environment sequestering her from the attentions of men”. Not sure if true but an interesting claim nonetheless. He says that the best ones teach grades 1 to 5. He claims that day care supervisors are “too toddler-focused and will love the baby more than you”. Here I think he does raise the issue when wives sometimes put their children way ahead of their husband and thus “forget” that they are a wife and neglect their husband. If left to continue this type of arrangement might lead to the couple being mere co-parents and roommates instead of lovers. I’m not saying for wives to neglect the children, I just think that a married woman should focus on being a good wife firstly then a good mother after that. It’s a matter of priorities. He goes on to say that “high school teachers are too stressed out form their job to properly service your manly needs at home” lol. Although this particular article heartiste wrote is quite light-hearted and tongue in cheek, he does make an interesting point so I thought I’d share it here. I think everyone has their own unique and different niche to search for potential partners, but the elementary school teacher does seem like a niche worth investigating. It’s also a plus if a man decides to home school his children.

Apologies for the off the tangent wall of text I wrote above lol.

Anyway I have three question for you, Kyle:
In your personal opinion what is the limit of the age gap between the man and a Ukrainian woman that will still reasonably ensure a high chance of a healthy and sustainable LTR/marriage?

Is an age gap of 15 years realistic(such as when the man is 35 years old while the Ukrainian girl is 20 years old)?
Will her family and relatives mind if the man is 35 yrs while the girl is 20?

I think 30 years age gap is a bit too much. My dad did that with my mom and it didn’t go well at all.

By the way I enjoyed reading your book “King’s Code”. I found it clear, succinct and straight to the point! 🙂

    Ukraine Living

    “Is an age gap of 15 years realistic(such as when the man is 35 years old while the Ukrainian girl is 20 years old)?
    Will her family and relatives mind if the man is 35 yrs while the girl is 20?”

    Neither her nor her family would blink an eye provided you have your shit together.

    Glad you enjoyed the book!



        Ukraine Living

        Dude, come on.

        You’re about to get taken to the cleaners and you know it. I would stay far, far away if I were you.

        David Brunner

        Colin if you get scammed you can’t blame anyone but yourself. You know that woman is fake.

        Brian Mark

        Don’t waste your money. If you have to pay to chat with her then it is a scam. Put in the effort and find a real girl.


wow crazy story, nice word of warning to first time visitors, lots of good girls out there but you cant trust em all


so ive been “dating” a girl from ukraine for a few months now. i read all these articles about the risk of scams and i cant say i was completly doubt free but im quite confident about the honesty of her and the relationship. I did not meet her on one of these dating sites. but we started chatting one day and enjoyed the conversations. Her english is quite good and we started talking on skype, we both send msgs every day and talk once or twice a week for the past 10 weeks. We email pictures to each other all the time, like things we r doing, places we go etc, and we both have sent more intimate pics;) Shes a student just finishing university, doesnt really work yet, and has little support from family. She has asked me for financial help if its possible. now Im not an idiot, and would never throw money away i didnt have to spend. Ive given her some money, now and again, to help her. i can afford to. and shes appreciative of that, and she understands when i say i cant, and ive tested that a few times. Ive seen where she lives everyday in a rented flat while attending school, and its not a nice place. Life there, i understand, can be a bit more difficult compared to western society. Shes given me a lot of details about her life, family, everything….she even asked to travel to meet me so we can spend time together in person. I said id go to ukraine to meet but she would rather come here, id rather her come here too:)

Im not looking for validation on what im doing, im pretty careful, and have no problem pulling the plug if things got suspicious. I guess i want to show that there are good outcomes possible…not everything is a scam…just be smart and be sure b4 u blow all your money. i see this as an investment. building communication and a relationship with a quality woman…and lets be honest, id be spending money at bars or on dates at home trying to find a woman here…so whats the difference….


    Ukraine Living

    So you send money to a girl you have never met?

    You’re rationalizing it to yourself. You’re getting scammed. Not in a direct way, but you’re still being taken for a ride.

    Sorry to be the one to burst your bubble, but you’re living in a fantasy world until you meet. I’d suggest you put the brakes on, now.

    Brian Mark

    I’ve lived in Ukaine and have dated many Ukrainian women. You are wasting your money until you go over there. You are not investing in your future. If she’s talking to you and you give her money, I’m sure she has many other “boyfiends” that send her money too. She can make more scamming than she can working in real job the Ukraine. Save your money, go over there and see her. I she won’t see you are are nothing. If she won’t have sex with you she doesn’t like you. Ukrainian girls are not prudish. If she tells you she is she is lying. If you can’t go over there then you shouldn’t be chatting.


The guy wasn’t too smart to buy her such an expensive gift. That being said, I have been there many times and I’d never go without video chatting with the girl first to get a feel for how interested they are in you. These girls are all born liars and if you are looking there, it is unlikely you will get a good girl even if you are careful and smart. The girls that are very hot, know it, and use it every chance they get. If you are okay with an average looking girl, or one that is kind of fat, you have a chance. Don’t buy them anything except small gifts of affection. They will rob you blind if you give them the chance. I advise All men to start looking in the Philippines. The girls there are everything the lying agencies promise about the Ukraine and Russian girls. They are not as hot, but many are cute and very friendly and kind hearted. They, and everyone in the country are nice, and speak English. It is a very catholic country and it shows. They don’t care about the age difference and they are sincere to find a good man. Philippine girls write me all the time that are 30 years younger than me and neither they nor their family mind at all. Some of them are SCAMMERS too, but the percentages are about 70-30 with 70% or higher being serious. Ukraine and Russia are about 90-10 with 90% or more being scammers. I know that most guys fall into the trap of thinking that something that is beautiful is good, but it couldn’t be further from the truth in this case. Lying is a way of life over there and they are the most cold-blooded bitches I have ever met. They think it is your fault for being dumb enough to believe them and have no remorse for hurting and robbing men. Stay away from the Ukraine and Russia unless you are filthy rich, don’t care about money, and are under 40 years old. If you are that kind of guy, you probably don’t need to go there in the first place to find a good woman. The Philippine girls are far superior and after looking for about 10 years in lots of counties, I think it is the best chance men have for success.

    Ukraine Living

    Why don’t you just learn a little game and avoid the forum bride scenarios?

    As in go without anything lined up.

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Went to Kiev in April 2017 for ten days and after months of being online I decided to use a marriage agency near the city center that promised me dates with 5 women for $500.00. and another $60.00 I wanted to meet in their portfolio. Three of them wanted me to fund their businesses that they were trying to start, the three others just wanted a free meal and showed up dressed to take out the trash, one told me she was a Doctor, with an appetite for very expensive wine, yes, I got sucked in, do you hear the sucking sound. I had some good food and conversation and bought her $400 worth of clothes, but when she wanted a $800. dress I finally woke up to the nightmare I was in and said no! The ladies I dated were 49 to 51, and since I am in my sixties, I thought maybe if I dated the older women I’d have a chance of finding someone that wasn’t trying to scam me! Wrong! I soon learned from the other American men in the local Irish pub that none of us were going home without being scammed to some degree, and some really got hit hard in the hip national bank worse than me. It didn’t matter how old, how good looking, or how rich we were, we all took a loss and were going home alone. It’s cheap to live there guys, go learn some Russian, live there for a few months and maybe you will find the love of your life, but I guarantee you she won’t look like any of the pictures your drooling over your computer. Every woman I dated did not look nearly as good as those pictures of them online, I think a couple of them had the right head, but some other woman’s body in the pictures. If you are really smart you will start looking around your own town, tell your friends to be on the lookout, and start going to church. Twenty years ago the Ukraine may have been a good place, but now the marriage business is just a business and the women are all in business for themselves being paid by the agencies to rip you off, if you want to just throw money out the window, you’ve been warned, don’t be stupid, think with the head on your shoulders! Or enjoy the lies and the heartache of being scammed.


i’m sorry but i can’t even feel bad for this man. he is an adult, he really should know better. #1 rule – if it sounds too good to be true, it’s a lie. if someone pick pockets you on the street bc you are drunk. fine. if you get dragged to some nightclub in turkey and end up paying $300 bc some girl asked for a few drinks. fine. you get drugged and your hotel belongings disappear with the girl you brought back. okay…. you got scammed. but a mail order bride scam. hahahaha, that’s like a token joke. did he send money to nigeria bc someone offered him 4x times the asking price of the iphone he posted online for sale? the only thing i feel bad about is that all he did was reinforce these con-artists’ craft in further fuel their efforts.


I have reading these comments with great interest. I have been trying for 45 to fix a bad marriage with 2 divorces with a legal separation sandwiched it for good measure. I was contacted out-of-the-blue by a stunning 35-year-old that seemed to know something about me. I wrote her back giving some generic but true details of my life. This happened three times. But I finally wised up when I realized they all failed to address with any detail the things I revealed to them. This last one I really called out calling her a liar because she was using a different name with the same photos and stories, but with a different name. Though I wasn’t vulgar, I was blunt, and was a amused by her reply of how wonderful it was to hear back from me, and that our future would be full of joy and contentment! I have spent no money and never will. Nor will I trust any female from the dark side of the planet! K.

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Dudes, this is hilarious, when will we we all realise that no matter which country, or part of the world you are in All Women are prostitutes, yes even the married ones you feed them you clothes them you work your little balls off for them. stop wasting your money. Eat out, use a laundry service, hire a cleaner and fuck who you want when you want in whatever outfit you want. the total cost of ownership is far cheaper less stressful, and on a football night there is no grief over the mess you made with beer and peanuts. We need to go back to basics woman have place in life and its not in our homes watch what you want eat what you want and wear what you what , enjoy life and die with a f**k off smile on your face.

ps I only need sex once a week now normally on Thursdays so I’m good to go drinking on the weekend.


    Nah, just start looking in the Philippines. The girls are much nicer and respect men. Ukraine women are the meanest, coldest, women in the world and have no respect for men. Hot yes, but unlikely to have a good relationship with unless you are filthy rich and don’t mind being treated like a child.

    Ukraine Living

    You sound a bit bitter.

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Oh, its really crazy situation with this girls faced with some them. In internet find one guy he findes this scammers

Look may be it`ll be useful for you to know them and be careful

Brian Mark

Joe states:
“Lying is a way of life over there and they are the most cold-blooded bitches I have ever met. They think it is your fault for being dumb enough to believe them and have no remorse for hurting and robbing men.”

I have to agree with this 100%. Can you find a good woman? Not through a marriage agency. Most of these women are professional daters and scammers. I met all my good girls outside of the agencies: in the mall, on the street, in the metro.


I met a woman on a dating site, free. We talk via skype everyday. Her volume is broken so we write, but she gave me her number since I was skeptical. I made plans to see her, she said she wanted to stay at an apt rather than a hotel in her hometown. Is this normal? The apt is cheaper than a hotel, but how do they know about apts? I met a woman before who suggested the same thing and when I asked she said Ukrainian girls do not like going to hotels, they cannot cook or take care of you there. I imagine I am going to be called a victim because pof all the posts I have read, but please be constructive.

    Ukraine Living

    If you met her on a free site (which one?), I wouldn’t be too concerned.

    Hotels can be bad – they aren’t discreet and are very public. If this is a small town she has a reputation to uphold.

    I would say overall it’s pretty normal, but certainly not abnormal.

    Keep us posted.


hey mike.as i was reading your post i got the impression that you have sorta struck it lucky (in a way) because your in the “no transaction” stage of getting to know her..or them☺ and i know the free russian dating site your talking about…. (you have to type in “100% free russian dating site” to find it..type excactly what ive put or you wont find it guys)i was on it ages ago and its really revealing just how many girls actually contact You! as,compared to the endless 2,000 plus messages i got in 1 week and 2,570 emails you’ll get on the scamming sites like Anastasia date/Victoria hearts!! (Victoria Hearts is the worst one….you pay to even leave a comment on One of thier photo’s… it’s INSANE!!!) anyhoo on the free site since i know some russian i can get rid of the sob stories (money pits).?the genuine ones wich will like you or not, thats it (just like home☺),you still have to make a good deal of effort to get thier attention sometimes,its the same if you want the chance at a really nice looking one but in alot of cases it’s just like chatting to girls Where You Live☺ Ukraine women are used to bieng approached on the street by men….i dont think ALL Ukrainian/Russian/Slavick woman are born liars i think thats bieng a tad bitter after a scam but thier Corrupt Givernment and economy plus thier Idiotic Proud Arrogant president have made it somewhat normal to scam Americans/Astralians/UK men,Im not saying we should feel sorry for scammers!! believe me i only got scammed a bit on a site once but it hasn’t dettered me from going over to Russia/Ukraine for a holiday and maybey….to meet a girl there because ive studied there culture/language for a while i have a female Tall and Gorgeous Russian tutour (im too short shes 6’3″ lol☺)and if you can find an honest girl that likes you for YOU and Family/Security (wich is normal for every female in the world) meeting a Pretty and Nice Ukraine girl would be awesome!! but i cant stress this enough “LEARN SOME RUSSIAN!!”if you don’t?, many girls ,ones that you like on the free dating site and in Russia/Ukraine won’t be very impressed because you didnt take the time to learn some basic communication and you will miss out!….keep trying like me if you want but you can’t be desperate for it or you will attract the gorgeous but WRONG girl and you’ll get fleeced because those girls think you don’t deserve to have money because life is so easy for the Westerner.anyway my initial intrest in just the girls has now turned into a genuine intrest/hobby about learning another language and culture ….and im sure…a girl☺


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