Questions from a Reader About Dating in Ukraine
Reader Eddie commented on the post about Ukrainian women:
Nice article! Quite comprehensive and I enjoyed reading it. Like you I have an interest in EE girls and even though I have no personal experience of dating them, it appears that they are better in many ways compared to western women.
Its interesting that you point out that the majority of Ukrainian women are interested in serious relationships rather than indulging in casual hookups. What do you think encourages them to reject the western style of casual sex?
It also seems like they bring much more to the relationship than western girls(who only seem to bring their physical aspects) such as their feminine qualities. What do you think encourages them to act feminine? Is it because they have to compete for a man’s commitment?
Personally I think the tendency for the girls there to be initially “cold” and not open up too quickly(both emotionally and physically) to men to be a good thing when you consider that western girls are perhaps a bit too “open” to too many men at once if you know what I mean. You said that once they trust you they tend to open up more. I think at this point of the relationship this “cold” attitude to strangers begins to work in your favor since there is less of a chance of her being “open” to other men behind you back. She is more likely to share her intimacy with you and you only as opposed to western girls who tend to share it equally among many men.
Regarding her family you said that her father wants you to drink with him. Do you think they will be offended if you refused, saying that you don’t drink? Perhaps you can say that only drink a little and just for this special occasion but not get drunk since you mentioned that Ukrainian girls criticism their men for drinking.
Does the families of Ukrainian girls(her father, aunts, grandmothers) like to “test” you(such as inquiring to see if you had girls before, amount of income, religious values etc)?
PS: Really good article. I learned a bit from it.
Reply to specific key points:
“What do you think encourages them to reject the western style of casual sex?”
More than anything it’s just the culture. “Follow-the-herd” mentality, if you will. If everyone is doing it, people pick up on it. Casual relations is not a trendy thing in the FSU (usually).
“What do you think encourages them to act feminine? Is it because they have to compete for a man’s commitment?”
Yeah. Lot of competition and beauty out there. They have to.
“Do you think they will be offended if you refused, saying that you don’t drink?”
Haha yeah, I’d say so. Best just to load up on the carbs and hope for the best. I doubt they would let you drink anything less than a half dozen drinks, depending on how much they drink. The girls understand in this case.
As far as tests, not really so far — but language barriers do apply.
Thanks for your detailed comment, Eddie!