The #1 Rule of Ukrainian First Dates

So you’re in Ukraine, on a date. You’ve got a beautiful girl in front of you. Maybe her English isn’t exactly top-notch, but it’s good enough to work with. Your Russian or Ukrainian skills (hint: learn Russian!) are lackluster.

You’re on this date, and while she’s there with you…she’s also not.

Perhaps this Ukrainian girl is a bit cold. You know the reputation of Slavic girls—“Ice Queens”. She is there and somewhat engaged with the conversation, but for one reason or another she just isn’t quite opening up to you. It feels a bit like talking to a robot. She’s icing you out, slightly.

This is a situation that many men coming from the western world just can’t handle. It’s not from a lack of social skills—quite the opposite. But it’s so different it makes you feel uncomfortable.

Therefore, the absolute #1 rule of Ukrainian first dates is…

If she’s still there, on the date with you, she wants to be.

In the western world, it’s sometimes hard to get a girl to talk less. A first date results in her spilling her entire life story—every house she lived in, every sex partner she ever had, all her hopes and dreams.

It’s daunting—because then you have to measure up to the fairy-tale picture that she paints for you.

Because of her stories it becomes clear her expectations are (usually), well—a bit unrealistic.

Whereas a Ukrainian girl won’t really tell you much about her on a first date. In a way, it’s a test. She wants to see if you are comfortable in your own skin, or if you squirm and fill every awkward silence with more awkwardness.

The thing is, Slavic girls in general are pretty straightforward. If she’s not enjoying it, she’s just going to leave. She’ll politely excuse herself after one drink or coffee, and that will be that.

If she’s still on the date with you, she wants to be.

Another tip: Do coffee dates for a first date. Rampant alcoholism among Ukrainians can make Ukrainian women wary if you start downing shots of vodka on a first date—and she’s probably not going to do them with you, either.

Kissing Ukrainian girls on a first date.

This is another test they like to throw—how much of a man are you in the face of rejection?

It’s not uncommon for a Ukrainian girl to turn down your first attempts to kiss her. Maybe even many. But if a girl in the west won’t kiss you, you know it’s not going to happen. She’s not interested—because western culture encourages quick hookups.

It’s very different in Ukraine.

Even if you try to kiss her ten times, and she says no every time—if she’s still there, she wants to be.

Just give a smile that says, “I know how this game works.”

And eventually, it’ll all work out.

PS: I have no doubts saying that Ukraine Date is the best and easiest way to meet stunning Ukrainian girls.

  • April 18, 2017
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Nice tips to remember!
Seems like slow yet persistent game works for Ukrainian girls. I’ve read that escalating aggressively, while good for Western girls, might scare away these girls.
I have a feeling that cold and aloof game isn’t suitable for Ukrainian girls?

    Ukraine Living

    Very true!

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Well, 3 months of excellent daily Email exchanging. A visit by me to meet her for three days in Kiev, a great time. But I cannot tell if she likes me any more than any other friend. Certainly this article ‘The No. 1 Rule of Ukrainian First Dates’ rings true. She has spent 6 hours with me for each of 3 days in a row.

But she still refuses a small lip kiss. I traveled 2,500 km, she traveled 600 km.

The most difficult thing to handle is her mobile. She gave me her number by messaging me on my mobile. But since then she says it is faulty for all Apps. And when I ring call, it just rings, no answer or answerphone messaging. It is as though she has blocked my number.

She talks to me in poor English, but shows admirable and considerable effort.

When her Translator contacts her, always instant answers and all Apps and voice seem to work.

I offered to buy her a new Apple phone and send it which she agreed to. But will I just be sending a new phone to someone who already has a working Apple 5 phone? Yes, she has given me her postal address which I am sure is correct.

I would not mind all of this except for one small point. I love her to bits and want to marry her in reasonable time.


    Ukraine Living

    Run away man, run away.


But she was there, on each of 3 dates. Meaning, she wants to be.

Refusing a kiss is saying, lets just see if I make a second trip.

Your Slavic Girl article says both of these are a good sign. If not, she would be gone!

We swap Emails every day. The mobile has gone for repair. She gave me her address and mobile number. These actions are very positive, surely?

I cannot run away. I am hooked by love. She did not ask me to pay for anything.

Which part of my post makes you say ‘run away man, run away’?

    Ukraine Living

    It’s not a good thing if it’s been THREE dates and you haven’t gotten as much of a peck.

    You also shouldn’t be buying her shit before the relationship takes a serious step or two forward; i.e. to the bedroom.

    The “haven’t kissed” only applies to a first date.

    She’s using you.


Hey there am really amazed from you work mate keep going your info is really helpful and i was wondering usually how long should the first date be,if we should split the bill or i should pay it and either to acompany her to her home or just leave at the coffe shop

    Ukraine Living

    Pay it yourself, for sure.

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